Have you ever been caught up in chasing fool’s gold? Jill Scott, poetically, described chasing a dream that didn’t exist in her soulful song with the same title.
While driving around running errands one day, this song came on the radio. Now I have heard it hundreds of times but on that day I really listened to the words. I turned the volume down so the lyrics could resonate better with my thoughts. If I could have removed all of the instrumentals, it would have been done. Those words truly carried on their own. Ms. Jilly from Philly summed up in three minutes what certainly took me years of hurt and mistakes to rationalize.
“I was living a dream believing things that just ain’t true…”
If only the human mind and heart were susceptible to learning from the mistakes of others. Hell, if only we learned from our own mistakes! How often do we repeat situations because we are looking for the outcome that we want? What is that old saying? Oh yeah, if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got.
Fool’s gold talks about giving up your most prized possessions – be it your time, your patience, your love, your money – to other people, situations or circumstances that just don’t deserve it. Of course, there’s the love/lust driven fool’s gold but what about work? What about friendships? How many times have you found yourself in the same situation with the same friends vowing never again only to repeat it All. Over. AGAIN? How many of you are now , or have been, at a place of employment mentally using up all your sick days and trying to figure out how to go on long-term disability for the paper cut you got at the printer after being passed up for that promotion… for the second time? Women stay in relationships that are blatantly unhealthy with a man who may be right somebody but is just not right for her.
Did it ever occur to you that maybe, although they are cool, those “friends”aren’t meant to compliment your style. Maybe that job wasn’t meant to support your growth. Maybe that man is not equipped to embrace the strength of you. Stop chasing the fool’s gold of familiarity. Stop being comfortable. You can’t buy happiness with fool’s gold. Your dreams are in the unknown.
Oh, and ladies, men chase fool’s gold too. You know that I know that YOU KNOW that we’re not always sugar and spice and everything nice. Men have feelings too.