Who’s Afraid of the Big Bad Change?

Over the next few days I will be sharing my opinion on the importance of something we all need yet many despair.

“Change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and gorgeous at the end.~ Robin Sharma

The only thing harder than personal change is finding that needle in the haystack. Over the years we have been introduced to various aspects of various lives. Some we’ve adopted, some we’ve outright refused, and others we’ve tested but didn’t like the taste. In case you didn’t know, change is imminent. There’s no way around it. Sometimes the change you want may not be the change you get and the change you need may not be the change you want.

“We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are.” ~Max De Pree

If there was one thing you could change about yourself, what would it be? Have you thought about all of the actions that would need to take place in order for you to achieve what you really want? Have you already begun preparing yourself mentally, physically, financially or any other way necessary to become who you feel you are destined to be? Let me tell you, its NOT easy! Everyone has a different aspiration for where they want their life to go and, because of that difference, everyone’s journey will be different. The work they have to put in will be different. It’s impossible to measure the outcomes of your desired situation by the actions of others. It is also foolish to think that if you remain the same change will occur anyway. That the equivalent of constantly squeezing apples and waiting for orange juice to appear. If you want change, you have to be prepared to get down in the trenches and square up with your opposition.

If you are like most people, you actually want change. You know change is good but you are also a victim of your own irrational fear that leads you to dread the actual process of it. Fear is a natural feeling but ask yourself this, if things were to always remain the same, how would you learn something new? Do you want to evolve or do you want to become obsolete?

Being afraid of change equates to:

You being stuck waiting for the familiar bus and letting the bus with all of the opportunities just ride past.

Acknowledging change equates to:

Being ready to walk in your own light. It’s okay to enjoy the shine from someone else. It’s beneficial when the shine is your own.

Embracing change equates to:

You no longer jumping on the bandwagon when you know you should be piloting the plane. Too often, people underestimate their own capabilities and seek the easy way out by following the leader. Embrace change! Hop off that wagon and do your own thing.

The goal is to be successful with your change. Don’t aim for major changes in a small amount of time, especially, if you have big goals. That’s a recipe for disaster. Start off subtly and build your way to a new you with new habits. Try dedicating a specific day to a specific task on your to-do list, and focus on that task only. If you can squeeze in another item after that is completed, then go for it. If not, tomorrow’s another day. Just stay committed!

“I’m making some changes in my life. If you don’t hear from me you were one of them.”~unknown

I know that sounds cruel but it’s the truth. Sometimes you have to sever ties with things or people who are not contributing to your progress but are, instead, holding you back. It’s not being selfish. It’s taking control of self. Knowing who and what you need to get rid of in order to make your change become a reality may be, perhaps, one of the most difficult things to decide. You may be put in a position where you feel you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or maybe that person is too nice or that person has never done anything to you that you deem worthy of a chop. That may be so. In contrast, ask yourself, has that person ever been a top or even bottom contributor to your success? Do you here Erykah Badu singing Bag Lady?

Surround yourself with a melting pot of like-minded individuals. Remember, you all don’t have to have the same interests but you should understand the need for encouragement and the desire to encourage for the sake of each other’s success.



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