Cultivating a More Positive You.

Admitting that you have a problem is said to be the first step to recovery.


My admission:

These past few weeks have been hella horrible trying to stay in the positive lane.

There! I said it! Now what? Does a pixie fly down and sprinkle me with some positive vibes dust? No? I didn’t think so.

I’ve been giving some serious thought to my recent lack of optimism and all around Growlygus persona (parents with little Wow! Wow! Wubbzy! Fans will know exactly what I’m talking about).

I think I have it partially figured out. All around me life is happening. Not the life that I found, in an ironic way, comforting but a life that is evolving and leaves me unsure of how to react to it.

But evolving into what?


When I turn on the tv there’s a circus of chaos. Turn on the radio-chaos. Go to the grocery store-conversations about the chaos. I feel like my not-so-happy thoughts are allowing me to be swallowed up by The Neverending Story’s Swamp of Sadness with The Nothing waiting in the shadows.

Yes, there are slivers of silver lining here and there but the mind has this neat trick that it does. It’s a pro at magnifying the negative to enormous proportions with little effort and highlighting the positive with invisible ink.

Am I the only one to feel the pressures of this rubix cube of current events? My intuition tells me no. So, I’ve come to the conclusion that, instead of being unsure of how to deal with the chaos, I should protest it…with positivity.

Oh about that….

Well, it seems my positivity needs a boost. It has taken quite a beating and I’m guessing yours has too.

We can’t change our view on our external environment if our internal windows are covered with mud.  ~Liz McKenzie

Here are some tips to help you mentally prepare for a day of positivity surrounded by the chaos monster:


1. Go to bed!!! I don’t know about you but sleep has been a complete stranger to me. It visits but doesn’t stay long enough for us to get acquainted. I don’t know too many people who are able to foster a positive vibe with a tired mind. Look, whether you get a good night’s sleep or not, negativity will still be there. Having a well rested body and mind is the first line of defense to help you to combat it.


2. Fuel your body. A cup of coffee, tea, some fruit. Whatever gets you going. Use it to rev up your positive self.


3. Think about all the things in your life that you are grateful for. Your family, home, health, job, whatever it is that makes you happy. If you’re in a particularly rough time in your life, try writing those things that are a blessing to you in a journal as daily reminders of everything that brings you peace.


4. Create a gratitude circle. Link up with individuals who can provide support as you all work to strengthen your positive thinking. Plan to send an email or text everyday of something you are grateful for. This is an excellent way to start your day on a positive note!


5. Show those pearly whites. Who needs pixie’s and their magic dust when there’s magic in your smile? Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin that act as natural pain relievers, antidepressant and mood lifters. Trick your brain into a positive mood with a smile.


6. Pay it forward. Spread positivity to those around you. Positivity doesn’t have to end with you but it’s a pretty awesome thing to start. Take advantage of your ability to uplift others!

Now, off you go to build your positivity portfolio!




  1. Great, Great post with incredible and loving reminders. Xoxo

    1. Thank you! I think everyone’s positivity model has taken a hit and needs a little re-up! Have a beautiful day!

  2. I find that having a grateful attitude goes a very long way. It’s tough to be positive sometimes but remembering to be thankful for the little things certainly helps!

    1. Thanks Jolina! Now if only we could recruit the rest of the world!!!

  3. Going to bed is seriously the best tip ever! If I don’t get enough sleep I am miserable. And the more miserable I am, the less sleep I get. It’s a vicious cycle.

    1. I completely agree! I gave my kids a reason to call me a Growlygus!

  4. Surrounding yourself with positive people really helps to lift your spirits and inspire.

    1. Yes! That makes a HUGE difference!!

  5. I love the idea of practicing gratitude. Nothing like a good little reflection session to remember all the wonderful things in your life! Great read!

    1. You’re right! It’s easy for us to overlook all of the wonderful things we have to inspire us.

  6. One of my 2017 goals is to be more positive. I find reviewing what I am grateful for very helpful. I also notice that sleep plays a big role in how I am able to cope with daily setbacks. Great tips thanks for sharing.

    1. Well, let me send positive vibes your way to cheer you on to the finish line of your goals!! You got this!!

      1. Thanks for the positive energy

  7. I’ve definitely been aboard the negative train this year so far and honestly getting enough sleep has a lot to do with it. Or not in my case. We underestimate the affects small things have on us!

    1. I’m guilty of under estimation. My goal is to eliminate it this year.

  8. I want to be in the gratitude circle too. Thank you for sharing this positive message. We need more of this kind of message to make this world a better place.

    1. Thank you, Anmaria. I’m toying with some ideas to get one started. I will keep you posted.

  9. Great points. I have beeb feeling the same way with the general chaos in the U.S. very unsure of the future and forgetting that I need to stop projecting and enjoy the now. Thanks for the great article.

    1. It’s easy to get lost in chaos. I agree. Smell the flowers while you can!

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